So what I thought was over turned out otherwise.
Last Sunday, IBA guy and I met up again. It was unplanned. I asked him if he and I were going to meet soon. It turns out he was going to be in Tokyo that day because he had a review session.
We agreed to meet up in the evening to catch a movie and have dinner.
Hmm, it was still a good date.
I'm just being cautious and trying not to invest a lot in it.